Let’s start off by establishing a mutual understanding of the word control.
When I use the word control it does not imply gripping, pushing, forcing, or clinging. All of those verbs imply the use of unnecessary thought energy and force.
The Merriam-Webster online dictionary defines control as “to have power over (something),” “to direct the actions or function of (something),” “to cause (something) to act or function in a certain way.”
In order for you to control your thoughts of self-doubt, imposter syndrome, and prevent self-sabotage you must believe that those thoughts do not control you. You must believe that you have power over those thoughts.
When you allow doubtful thoughts to govern your actions, self-sabotage is a result. Self-sabotage is you NOT taking actions that lead to results.
Self-sabotage can be sneaky.
For example, you go onto a social media platform to message a prospective client and you get sidetracked by scrolling, before you know it 45 minutes has passed, your next appointment is starting, and the message to the potential client is still unsent.
Self-sabotage can show up in 1,001 other ways.
Let’s talk about the “HOW” in developing control over the doubtful inner voices.
It begins with daily thought work (or mindset work) and a consistent self-development practice.
It ends with you utilizing the internal tools you gain from your practices and putting them into action in your daily life through your work, communication, and relationships.
In doing daily thought work and consistent self-development work you begin to shed layers and layers of internal dialogue to create ways of seeing your world that is not even your own.
Our unconscious minds are sponges that soak in information 24/7, waking or sleeping, and beliefs are formed from this information we take in.
When you do thought work, it does not mean that the inner voices of self-doubt and imposter syndrome will ever go away, it means that you will have a way of controlling those voices when they come up … and they will come up. They will come up when you are taking a big leap professionally when you are about to make a new hire, when you are launching a product or campaign, or when you are investing in yourself in bigger ways. The doubtful voices are your primal brain’s way of guiding you to stay safe by keeping things the same.
You have higher inner guidance systems that are intelligently designed to give you the kind of information you need to be successful in your endeavors. In doing thought work and self-development work you get to tune into the higher inner guidance systems by reprogramming your unconscious mind to signal different thoughts that reflect the outcomes you do want to see in your life: increased income, freed up time, and bandwidth resulting from new hires being made, better boundaries, … insert the outcomes you are seeking.
The ball is in your court now.
Have you been committed to your own development or is it time to recommit and double-down on your practices?
Thought work and self-development are to be treated as life-long practices. They are how you build an unbreakable foundation of strength, courage, resilience, and trust.
Can you now see that self-doubt, imposter syndrome, and resulting self-sabotage are symptoms of unconscious thoughts that are not a match to your goals and dreams?